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Modern Family: It Takes All Types

Posted in Mavuno Sermons with tags , , , , , on May 15, 2016 by mavunite

Everyone one of us has been/is part of a group of friends either at work, college, a chama or an accountability group etc. What’s the one outstanding thing you liked about that group?

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If you want to build the foundation for true and lasting success in 2016 and beyond, you need to realize that you cannot do it alone. Isolation is your enemy in your journey of purpose.

In Gen.2:18, God states during Creation that ‘It is not good for man to be alone’. We often take this verse to be talking about marriage. If it did, then Jesus Continue reading

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Is She Worth Fighting For – BFF: Friends For The Journey

Posted in Mavuno Sermons with tags , , , , , on October 25, 2015 by mavunite

What does a great friend in a woman look like? Who is that female friend who is worth fighting for?

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How has God defined the woman? Who is that woman worth fighting for? What does it mean to be feminine? In the last weeks we have been looking at the attributes of femininity: Queen, Homemaker and Partner.

Today we look at BFF: FRIENDS FOR THE JOURNEY!

We were created for relationships. Life is hard; no one should have to walk alone. We need to walk with others in the journey of femininity. True friends. Male and female, friendships are quite different. Women are definitely more relational than men. They have words to spare, are more emotionally intelligent and expressive; they have an attractive, caring spirit that is crucial in relationship.

 If you put 10 women and 10 men together in two separate rooms for a week, what is likely to happen in the two camps?

Men

  • They will mainly talk about politics, sports, finances and cars
  • They will get to know what each other does, drives and probably where they live but not much more
  • They will probably pick a project to do together

Women

  • They will talk about family, boyfriends, friends, recipes and work
  • They will get down to heart issues pretty fast – fears, hurts, broken relationships, etc
  • Some cat-fights may arise, and get pretty personal (around who left the bathroom seat up or who took someone’s toothpaste); call it drama
  • Cliques will emerge, with powerful leaders and some turf wars (Queen Bee or Alpha Diva leading)

It has been said that women are each other’s enemy.  In politics, many women would rather support a man than another woman. Women size each other up, tear each down with their eyes, fight a lot through gossip and slander, and struggle more with emotional hurts than men.

How can a woman build lasting friendships?

Women have the words, the relational emotional capacity and the band-with for relationships. Yet it is in this strength that the enemy tempts a woman.

Eve used words and the appeal of emotion to get Adam. Hagar and Sarah, married in the same home (Abraham’s), had it rough with each other until God had to intervene. Sarah, the woman of faith, could not stand the handmaid who she had given to Abraham for a son. She kicked her out to the desert with her son.

There may not be many examples in the Bible of women who were great friends, but women are called to be and to have good friends.

Today we look at the qualities the woman as a friend.

Ruth 1:1-18

S. Mbevi:

In this story, 3 qualities stand out! A friend is real – authentic; says the truth and is never working behind your back to gossip, backbite, sabotage or destroy. What you see is what you get. She can be trusted. No masks! Naomi and Ruth were real to each other. They had been through a lot and they could talk to each other openly. Naomi warned Ruth that she might not get a husband if she comes along. That a better option was to go home to her mother. They had a real conversation right there.

A true friend shares her life openly: her fears, her hopes, her expectations and her wishes. Walls have come down and there is nothing too private. But to be real and vulnerable is not easy.

K. Dena: Let me share what may help in this quest.

  • Establish Rules of Engagement – From the start or as you go. Clarify boundaries, talk about expectations, and openly share one’s limits. Agree on some guidelines in dealing with different issues.
  • Enhance Safety – Provide safe, trusting environment for each other. Give each other meddling rights. Tell the truth in love. Establish confidentiality.

A great friend is authentic, and secondly, dedicated – makes time, adds value, meets needs, encourages, helps and generally serves another no matter what.

That is what we see in Ruth. She is given to the relationship and she is willing to pay a high cost and risk a lot for it. She ‘clung to her’ the Bible tells us (v 14). She said, ‘Where you go I will go …’ She was not easily influenced by Orpah to turn away; she stuck to her friend. She was fully dedicated to this relationship.

She came with Naomi because she knew she was needed. She selflessly served the needs of a broken-hearted woman. She was dedicated to this relationship beyond personal gains. They must have had some conflicts, but the dedication was to go past every conflict, challenge and hurt.

Do you really want a friend? You may not, but you need one. Once you decide, dedicate.

S. Mbevi: Dedication, what does this in your opinion look like?

K. Dena: Dedication calls for:

  • Resolve – more than feelings, a will to be and relate to a friend
  • Faith – God brings people together. He can solve any problem. He knows what tomorrow will bring. I believe faith in Naomi’s faith kept Ruth engaged.

A great friend is authentic and dedicated. There is a third quality: A friend is loving – easy to relate to, good-hearted, relational, fun to hang out with, affectionate and committed to another’s welfare (goodwill).

Are you friendly? Attractive? Easily approachable? Patient? What friendship legacy will you leave behind? Are you lovely and loving as a mother, sister, boss, team-member, usher, teacher and friend? How can one become more friendly or loving?

  • Deal with the Past – hurts, pain, etc. Let it go.
  • Change Your Attitude – Whatever your personality, ask God to help you love people. There is lots of good in every person.

A great friend is authentic, dedicated and loving.

You may feel like the burden of friendship is too heavy. Some ladies even brag that they hang out with guys – they are easier to deal with. You may avoid the drama of friendship, but you will never truly get to maturity as a lady without female friendships. Friends bring out the best and the worst in you.

Eccl. 4:10-12

The benefits of having a great friend:

  • Companionship – Ruth and Naomi were there for each other through thick and thin, sadness and joy, marriage and singleness. Two can lift each other up, keep warm and strengthen each other. There is security in friendship.
  • Opportunities – Naomi introduced Ruth to Boaz, and Naomi became a mother-in-law to a good man. Ruth eventually became the great grandma of Jesus. Talk of friendship with benefits. From Ecclesiastes, friends get more accomplished together.

Every woman would want a friend like Ruth. In friendship, you have to be the friend you are looking for.

Are you real, authentic?

Some of us struggle with this. Our trust has been betrayed before. We have been hurt so we have learned to protect our hearts. We only allow someone in after they have proved themselves over and over again.

We can bring all that to Jesus. He was betrayed by his friend, denied by his closest and crucified by the people he came to serve. He understands you and would want to heal you.

Are you dedicated to be a friend?

How could you create time to focus on 2 or 3 friends and drill deep together? It is easy to have general sunshine friends who disappear during winter. Who will you invest in?

Are you loving?

Maybe you find yourself abrasive, unpleasant, unable to sustain a friendship, a snob, difficult to deal with, irritable, nagging and so on. What did that come from? Is it inherited from your mum or grandma? Was it acquired early in life? Is it out of a dysfunctional home?

Bring it to Jesus. He says: Come to me all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. He heals and gives rest.

As a woman, do you have toxic friends who are negatively influencing you that you need to drop? Or have you become a toxic friend yourself? What is God asking you to do with this message?

Men, as a boss, how could you make it easier for the women in your team to relate well with others? Do you respectfully affirm or correct those around you as to how they relate with others?

We should of course not take advantage of the pleasant women or the damsel in distress. May we be honorable men around the women in our lives and field of influence.

This Is Not A Club, We’re On A Mission!

Posted in Mavuno Sermons with tags , , on March 4, 2012 by mavunite

People move from relationship to relationship because they don’t really know what they are about. We change jobs and partners because we don’t really know what we have been called to do and as a result we end up wasting energy and not achieving what we have been called to do. We meander through life and end up with regrets because we don’t know what we really are about.

What do you want to be known for and what are you standing for? This series talks about the unique role that God has called us to as His people. What do we stand for as a family? GOD WANTS BIG THINGS FOR YOU! We are interested in you becoming the fearless infuencer that you were created to be. This will happen within the family of God’s people. We are starting a new series today. We are a family. And you are a part of this family! Our intention is that you would be known for something. There’s a great story in scripture where God defines what His family would be known for… Continue reading

The Opposite Of Hating

Posted in Mavuno Sermons with tags , , , , , , , , on November 19, 2011 by mavunite

1 Chronicles 11:15-19 tells of a time during a very difficult war when the going was very tough. At such times, soldiers longingly remember the life they left behind, and David longingly remembered the sweet, cool water that came from a well at the gate of the occupied town of Bethlehem.

Very matter-of-factly, the passage describes a daring military operation, where three warriors ‘broke through’ the enemy ranks (note: they didn’t ‘steal through’) and broke back on the way back to bring the coveted water to David, their commander-in-chief. They risked their lives for him!

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Ndoa Retreat – Keep The Fire Burning

Posted in Mavuno Sermons with tags , , , , , on October 2, 2011 by mavunite

Mavuno’s first ever couples getaway retreat. This is a LIMITED EDITION event, only 40 couples boarding and 10 couples (day attendance) from 20th to 22nd October 2011, at Thayu Roundvales, Limuru.

Boarding Ksh 20,000 & Dayscholars 12,500. Book NOW! Pay @ the info desk or MPESA Pay Bill 508700 account name “Ndoa Retreat”.  Ndoa alumni get first priority for registration. Pass the word around. For more information email sophiem[at]mavunochurch[dot]org.

The development of a really good marriage is not a natural process. It is an achievement

~ David and Vera mace ~

Strength In Numbers

Posted in Mavuno Sermons with tags , , , , , , , on August 24, 2011 by mavunite

What is your default response when crisis comes your way? Acts 12:1-11 presents a story of crisis for the church. Peter, one of the church leaders, had been arrested. The response of the church, even though one of them had earlier been arrested and executed, was to pray. And they did not do this as a large community of thousands, the story records that they gathered to pray was in the home of one of them – Mary the mother of John. This was the equivalent of a Life-Group (LG).
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Let’s Get Real

Posted in Mavuno Sermons with tags , , , , , , , , on August 13, 2011 by rajua

Image is everything for most people, even at Church. Image is why the advertising industry is so huge, globally not only in Kenya. Advertising doesn’t sell the funtionality or utility of products – it sells the aspiration to a lifestyle. It appeals to your  desire to project an image that is different and perhaps better than your reality.

This obsession with image didn’t begin with us. We see examples dating back to the Bible. Last week I spoke about how the early church experienced strong community in the midst of deep differences and how people began to interact powerfully despite deep differences. Now in the midst of this God moment, we encounter some serious image management.

Read: Acts 5: 1- 11 Continue reading

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