Project DAD: Who’s Your Daddy Recap

For some, fatherhood is a picture of ruthlessness and pain. For others, it’s synonymous with security, love and provision. For most, it spells neglect and abandon. But what was God’s intention for fathers and fatherhood?. This October, we went through the original blue prints behind every father.

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Week 1: What’s A Father Got To Do With It?

Dad is destiny!

We defined father as foundation, and saw the consequences of fatherhood gone bad. From Genesis 9 we saw how the act of one man can affect generations – Fathers curse or bless their children and the generations by the words they speak and their actions. We said that the sin of our fathers stop with us. The 4 Ps of fatherhood – Provider, Protector, Priest and Prophet. As men we committed to be great dads in our generation and the ladies committed to encourage and support us.

Have you taken time to honor or appreciate your dad?

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Week 2: Wounds Of A Dad

Why do we need to look back? One, because what happened then may still be affecting us today. You understand yourself and current attitudes by investigating your past. Unhealed father wounds affect your walk with God. Two, time or ignorance never will heal a wound. One has to face it, clean it up and treat it. Dads who wound us: Absent, Passive, Abusive, Controlling/Perfectionist and Dads behaving badly. Pain from our past that is unresolved is pain we’re condemned to repeat. – Terry Kellogg.

Malachi 4:1- 6 – Promise for healing to come as we forgive and reconcile with our dads. Peace with dad brings blessings.

1 Surely the day is coming; it will burn like a furnace. All the arrogant and every evildoer will be stubble, and that day that is coming will set them on fire, says the LORD Almighty. Not a root or a branch will be left to them. 2 But for you who revere my name, the sun of righteousness will rise with healing in its wings. And you will go out and leap like calves released from the stall. 3 Then you will trample down the wicked; they will be ashes under the soles of your feet on the day when I do these things, says the LORD Almighty. 4 Remember the law of my servant Moses, the decrees and laws I gave him at Horeb for all Israel. 5 See, I will send you the prophet Elijah before that great and dreadful day of the LORD comes. 6 He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers; or else I will come and strike the land with a curse.

To do: Forgive, Pass the case on to God, reconcile where possible.

02 Wounds Of A Father (Who’s Your Daddy?) from Mavuno Church on Vimeo.

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Week 3: The Father Blessing

Every boy and every girl desires to be blessed by dad – Am I man enough? For boys and Am I attractive for relationship? For girls. We saw how Jacob wrestled with God and asked for a blessing – he was given a new name and a destiny. From Jesus story in Mark 1, we see our father in heaven affirming us in the three ways: You are my son/daughter, whom I love, and Am proud of you. God fulfils that need, but we need a father alternative, a spiritual father perhaps to tell us that.

I have a DAD who loves me and believes in me!

03 The Father Blessing (Who’s Your Daddy) from Mavuno Church on Vimeo.

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Week 4: Fathered By God

God wants to father us and give us a place in his larger story: God wants to provide for us, protect us, speak to us as our prophet, be our priest. He is our father, and a father to the fatherless (Psalm 68:5) From Luke 15 we saw how the father loves both the prodigal and the elder son. The father restored the prodigal to his sonship – hug, robes, ring, sandals and a party. The elder son was rebuked – all that I have is yours, and am here with you.  Sons of God need to be revealed. Africa is waiting! They need to see the character and the power of the sons of God. Sons get inheritance, and it is time we lived for much more than trying to survive.

2 things we need to do: Return, Relate. Repent and Seek God with all your heart.

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04 Fathered By God (Who’s Your Daddy?) from Mavuno Church on Vimeo.

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15 Responses to “Project DAD: Who’s Your Daddy Recap”

  1. catherine Says:

    though i missed two of this month’s sermons – wounds of a dad and fathered by God, today’s sermon touched me the most. I think the best remedy to a bleeding heart is hearing similar accounts of what you’ve been through from others. Knowing hardtimes are not synonymous to you. I mean..the always jovial Amani i’ve known since college had such father wounds?? That is why i love this church where people are real. I’ve carried father & even mother wounds for years. It was especially good to know that my decision to start forgiving my dad and stop living in the past was the right one. Yes it’s a journey, and lately i’ve seen my dad change..it’s like he regrets not giving us all the Ps yet we turned out okey, so he is trying that now when we are already independent. I’ve decided to allow him. My story is that of my parents separating when i was in high school, after years of an unhappy marriage..violence… I don’t believe i’m writing this here. Like one of the ladies said today, talking about it is also a process.

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    • King'ori J. Maina Says:

      @Catherine,

      If you have an good internet connection, you can watch the sermons for the days that you missed online, find them at these links (though we’ve embedded them on this blog post so you can watch them from right here or even right from Facebook)

      02 Wounds Of A Dad – http://vimeo.com/15935020
      04 Fathered By God – http://vimeo.com/16371753

      We started putting up the audio from Fathered By God so if you need the audio due to a poor internet connection just let us know.

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  2. Pastor S, God bless you and your family abundantly, This series was a blessing to me and i wish all my siblings and my parents would have sat in with me for it. Am so humbled and strengthen by the fact that i have taken for granted so many things which i should be thanking God about, one coming from a family of 9 and seeing my dad strain to educate and care for us without much harassment and loving and affirming us all the time despite that some of my siblings strayed here and there. God i thank you so much for my dad and mum for support given to dad. Surprisingly after we all grew up my dad harasses my mum to attend the church he changed to which we all as a family disapprove(JEHOVAH WITNESS) and it has been bad for my mum and to us to some extend,and we as the children are coming up with a plot of approaching dad and telling him it is not fair on our mother she needs to age with the same love he had for her. No physical assault but he is just too loud for her and my sisters in-law and we need you to pray with us for him to calm down and just accept that we need the best for them. I NEED TO THANK GOD FOR ALL THAT HE HAS BEEN IN MY LIFE HE IS THE BEST DADDY I CAN HAVE I LEARNED THIS FROM YOUR SERMON AND AM HAPPY.

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  3. Greetings,

    Thanks you Pastor S for a lovely sermon this last season.

    I am now gonna be a Present Protector, Provider who is a Prophet and Priest.

    Based on yesterday’s sermon. The 4 Fearless Influencers on stage did quite some work. I have given them mad props for standing in front of a congregation and giving their life story. Mad love for Judy, Shiro, Amani and Pastor Maribei.

    However, I was depressed by the time I left that 1st service. No one seems to have a good father. I felt the need to wake up and speak about my dad who was a good one… thank God for that.

    I pray that the rest of the congregation who have had good dad’s to embrace them and appreciate them for what they were.

    I also think that the “men” bear the blame almost all the time. In this day and age, the ladies are not as naive as they were during our mother’s times. They know what they want and they even manage to manipulate the men to get whatever they want. Case in point, pregnancy! When a lady get’s pregnant and the man scatters, no one check’s whether the man actually didn’t want a child. People assume that because the lady got pregnant, the man is the one who forced her to it. What we don’t check is that the sexual intercourse was a mutual agreement and that the consequences should be bore by both the lady and the man. I think these sermons make the man look like the bad one all the time.

    Thank God for Jesus that we can strive to now live in sexual purity.

    I think the church should do a sermon that deals with the Mike’s & Makena’s of today! They have a basic life of
    1. Finish high school @ 18
    2. Break virginities @ 20
    3. Fall in love @ 21
    4. Parties & Raves @ 22 – 24
    5. Get mate and have unprotected sex @ 21 – 26
    6. Break up with mates @ 22 – 28
    7. Abort or give birth @ 22 – 28
    8. Have sexual flings all over due to break up with mate @ 22 – 30
    9. Life becomes hard coz of unwanted pregancies. @ 22 – 32
    10. Run to church to try and seek God.

    This is the order of most of the Mike’s and Makena’s. How about the church works out something to counter the aftermath of this lifestyle?

    Thanks and God bless.

    Forgiven.

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    • Thanks Forgiven,we are a people who really need forgiveness.Do that many of us and more so those of us in their 20’s procure abortions..??? I drove around for years with a sticker that read ABORTION IS MURDER.I truly believe that yet now I find myself thinking maybe its time to remove that bumper sticker so all the people who have knowingly aborted or being accomplices including some parents can know they too can find forgiveness in Jesus Christ.Guys & gals,its not that difficult to wait and have great sex as God planned it.Within marriage. Choose to,it is mission possible.Try it.

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    • I kinda feel you, but i differ in opinion with you about having a kid with a girl, in the sense that you can have this baby and work as a team, there are others who have babies and willingly deny that “it wasn’t principle” how are we supposed to deal with this as women. Am a case in point, single mother from a relationship after CAMPUS, and what i learned from this relationship is that all men are not bad actually but some want to be absent daddy, no connection no responsibility and no connection at all. So in the list of items you request to be done a sermon for, i request the PASTORAL TEAM ADDS, HOW US MAMA’S WILL SURVIVE IN SUCH CASES WHERE YOUR BABY WANTS TO KNOW WHO DADDY IS AND WHY WE DON’T LEAVE WITH HIM LIKE…THE NEIGHBOURS OR THE FRIENDS OF THE CHILD IN SCHOOL!
      LOVELY WEEK AND MANY BLESSINGS

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    • hi forgiven,
      I agree that it takes two to tango and what ladies should remember is that they have ALOT MORE TO LOSE when they get pregnant with a guy who isnt their husband. so ladies TUCHILL, and when those men come calling to have a fling with u, please tell them that your body is God’s temple and will not be misused and that u are saving yourself for your husband. Its hard to take that stand in this ungodly world, ive been dumped so many times coz nimechill but i dont regret it, i know i serve a faithful God who will give me a husband.

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  4. The last one month at Mavuno Church has been an edifying, wonderful journey of self-discovery as Pastor Mbevi took the congregation systematically through the odyssey of project DAD. His no holds barred challenge to our men has caused us to reflect and effect serious personal introspection as to the true role of a true and responsible Dad. Indeed he knowingly or unwittingly challenged the women to their true roles of assisting their men achieve maximum potential in this noble objective.
    Many of us were saddened when at the final discussion held on 7th November 2010 none of the four participants had anything positive to say about their Dads. It was a terrible indictment on the level of parenting generally in this country and a wake-up call to all those now married or intending to wed. In the words of Dr. Myles Monroe, “The inherent purpose of men is fatherhood. It is his calling to reflect the creative and cultivating nature of God.” In the Book of Genesis God gave man dominion over all other creatures and plants on earth. In this awesome responsibility man was placed above all creation and was placed notches above all other animals. He was bestowed with the knowledge of good and evil, the freedom of choice and a clear understanding of his own mortality i.e. life and death. Man expresses emotion, experiences love, joy, laughter and bereavement. Man was created with both a soul and a conscience. All other animals were denied. Upon placing man on this pedestal, God expects man to conduct his affairs differently and at a higher intellectual scale than other animals.
    Consequently man is expected to nurture, provide, support and teach and pass on certain skills to his progeny. This can only be achieved through present and active parenting. As matters currently stand many men have abdicated their parental role by being passive or altogether absent. Were it not for the grace of our womenfolk who remained to care for children we would possibly be having feral children running around our forests by now.
    Pastor Mbevi’s is a rallying call to all mankind to return to responsibility, civility and to respond to humanity. Man was not created to be a mere sperm donor otherwise we would have been placed lower on the development scale. Man is Gods’ greatest creation molded in his own image, a true masterpiece. That he has strayed so far from the Creators’ intention is a betrayal of both God and man. Pastor Mbevi is exhorting men to make a major contribution to the health of Kenyan society by caring for children and producing a new generation of Kenyans for whom men will be significant for their positive presence rather than by their absence or abuse. It is a Godly call to humanity and civilization. Now that the seed has been planted in our congregation let us resolve to spread it within and beyond our borders.
    DAUDI MWENDA. P.O.BOX 24943-00502 NAIROBI. CELL: 0722 154 722

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  5. Dear Mavuno,

    I thank God for allowing you to minister on such a powerful topic that is affecting our generation today. I am wondering whether you have plans to address the issues relating to relationships between mothers and their children as many of us have expereinced woundedness in the hands of our mothers as well.

    Thanks

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  6. Simply Me... Says:

    @Forgiven – I must say that much as I respect your views, especially on pregnancy, I don’t agree with some of them. The Bible says in Proverbs that if you churn milk, you get butter; if you hit someone’s nose, it bleeds. If you stir up anger, you get into trouble.

    Simply put and from a man’s point of view, whether the man wanted the child or not is irrelevant. Most ladies (even the ones who never wanted to have a child in the first place) are usually left with no choice but to bring them up, hence the many fatherless homes. A few chicken out and either procure an abortion or abandon the child in the hospital, dump-site etc.

    To use your own words, if the two weren’t sensible enough to ‘scatter’ (as you put it) from committing the sexual act, then BOTH must be ready to face the consequences. One knows very well that pregnancy is a possibility even before engaging in sex. It’s spoken about over and over again. It’s not about who does what to whom or who looks bad/good. Whether the pregnancy was manipulated/forced/pre-meditated (except in rape cases) or was a mutual agreement is totally irrelevant.

    Whether we go back to check whether the man wanted a child or not in the first place doesn’t solve the matter at hand. If you ‘choose’ (it’s always a choice) to have sex, be ready to deal with the real possibility of having a child and with that in mind, be equally ready to play your role as a parent to that child/children.

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    • @ Simply Me.

      Thank you for the reply. I agree with you.

      My point was that even after both parties have had sex before marriage, as the rest of us humans are judging, we should look at both parties, the lady and the gent equally instead of always trashing the absent father. He probably tried forming a relationship with the child but circumstances around the relationship with the mother of the baby do not allow him.

      Thank you!

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  7. me,myself and Irene Says:

    Just saying a heartfelt thank you to: Pastor Simon and the four courageous people on stage, Pastor Carol and A-star, the worship team and every other person involved in putting together the church service. I don’t know if I’ve ever enjoyed church as much, or been edified as much as I was during the last service. The mix of the worship in music, the fun by the service leaders and the utter realness of the people on stage ( and the very funky background music) was something else. God is truly glorified by all of you serving Him with your gifts, talents and experiences. Just letting you know someone out there appreciates all of you. God bless you all.

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  8. Last Sunday service was so touching but the only missing portion was that of a loving and caring father whom some of us had. Fathers are not perfect but sometimes we demand too much not knowing what they went through bringing us up as many as we were during that generation not to forget extendedfamilies. I had a protector, provider, present, preast, prophet and have no regrets even though he passed on seven years ago. Perhaps, I can also tell the story. Thanks.

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  9. Forgiven has contributed alot of of positive comments here .why are some of us hard on this?Can someone attempt to decode what needs to be done with the makenas and mikes of today.where is our society headed to?You heard the story from mwingi where 8 of the kcpe candidates were found to be expectant.Not to mention a legion of kcse candidates who sat for their exams in maternity hospitals having delivered.
    Iam not being judgemental on any one here.But where has responsible parenting gone to or is it that our children have become stiff necked and hard of hearing?Are we not teaching enough?are we praying less?or are we not good role models.Or have we abandoned caning with grave consequences on the resultant character of our kids?Does any one have any suggestions?

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  10. @Koech, in my opinion it’s the parents that have changed, not the children. My friend is a nursery school teacher and she tells me parents have no time for their kidos, some even want nursery schools to be open on saturday and sunday. they also bring their kids to school when they are like 3 years old or something.

    Parents should do what the bible says:
    1. instruct the tois in the word of God
    2. spend time with the tois
    3. discipline the tois
    4. show love and affection to the tois

    Me thinnks this will help solve the problem. These young girls are just looking for love and affection (and attention) that they don’t get at home.

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