Identity Crisis

Enemy Lies…
1. The Performance Trap – I must meet certain standards in order to feel good about myself
2. Approval Addiction – I must be approved by certain others to feel good about myself
3. The Blame Game – Those who fail are unworthy of love and deserve to be punished
4. The Shame Game – I am what I am; I cannot change; I am helpless

Overcoming The Lie: See yourself as God sees you!

1. Identify The Lie  – Psa.139:23
2. Replace The Lie – Eph.6:17
3. Expose The Lie  (through confession) James 5:16

Dear heavenly Father, I know that You desire truth in my inmost self and that facing this truth will set me free (John 8:32). I acknowledge that I have been deceived by the father of lies (John 8:44). I pray in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ that You, dear Father, will rebuke all deceiving spirits that have distorted my view of myself and of You. And since by faith I have received You into my life and am now seated with Christ in the heavenly places (Eph.2:6), I command all deceiving spirits to depart from me. I now ask the Holy Spirit to guide me into all truth (John 16:3). I ask You this week to “search me, O God , and know my heart; try me and know my anxious thoughts; and see if there be any hurtful way in me, and lead me in the everlasting way” (Psalm 139:23,24). In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen.

NB. Here’s a document with some verses you can use this week to replace the lies…


27 Responses to “Identity Crisis”

  1. Tha lies story is so deep!!and i suffer from tha approval lie bt my life group n i wil discuss on identifyin,replacin n exposin tha lie that were all facin.bloggin is fun.


  2. Never again has my life been exposed right infront of my eyes!i didnt even knw wat to do..whether to cry in anguish of all what av allowed myself to go through bcoz of low self esteem or to be happy bcoz the’s lies were being brought to light so i cn finally know hw to deal with it.All in all,there’s a God..a God whose love is unfathomable!.who wants to make us right.make us whole..&that brings tears to my eyes.
    What can i say? What can i do? To honour this God.
    Pastor M,thank u for ur obedience&courage to take up ur place to be used by God to marshal a revolution..that we as the children of the most High God can stop living mediocre christian lives..i urge u fellow princes&princesses,lets stop mediocrity,lets stop compromising,lets nt worship the gods of this world..then,only then,will me experience the power,provision,joy of being christians!
    Muchos blessings!


  3. Beloved, anointed and blessed Says:

    Heh, si that service was customed made for me! Wow, from MOG to the powerful sermon. I thank God for what his doing, i have been lied to by the enemy and i saw myself in all four of the categories. I don’t know how it got to that level but i had gotten there. But am glad my redeemer lives because i am being redeemed everyday! I have found a depth of peace,and its all by God’s grace and mercy! God is a faithful loving father and friend, a wonderful councelor, mighty and tender warrior! He is madly in love with me, and i love it that he is constantly fighting for me! He uses all this weapons and tactics to get a hold of me, just so that he can show me what it means to live like a child of the king of the universe! Like an heir to kingdom! Am blessed, because he calls me blessed and loved beyond measure,anointed from head to toe and overflow. Wow! It feels great!


  4. Beloved, Anointed and Blessed Says:

    @ absolute, isn’t blogging amazing! I just realized i made some grammartical error,Ati customed made? What is that? Lol! I meant to say custom made! Oops! You all have a blessed day, fellow heirs and heiresses of the kingdom of God! 🙂 smile!!


  5. Cee N. Kay Says:

    A good sermon that really spoke to my heart… the performance trap lie has been following me every where i have been going…. but the sermon was able to bring it out and bare now i know what i need to deal with.

    God bless you.


  6. thekenyannutcase Says:

    really cool sermon.

    take hm>>>to see myself the way God sees me.


  7. Totally Blessed Says:

    Thanks for that deep and enlightening service.It is life changing.Mavuno is truly a blessed church and God dwells here!God Bless you all.


  8. Pastor M,

    you really hit the nail on the head and not just with a hammer…but with a sledge hammer. Your sermon really reinforced what the lord has been telling me about my life. That this year is a special year, am a candidate for His Extreme Makeover series Season 1. As a matter of fact i am in the middle of reading a book titled ” Character Makeover…” And you talk about coincidence…or fairly put…divine appointment. The sermon was timely and could not have come at a better time than this…

    ps..Na mambo bado…add to the mix Mizizi and i can bet the enemy is already making a huge retreat …


  9. I thank God for the great sermon.myself am in the shame game.the enemy will try in all means to put us down but GOD will alway have a way of working things out.i believe in prayer God will see me thro’.
    God bless you.


  10. Thank you Pastor M for sharing the sermon.I believe that with this new revelation I am able to overcome the fear I have had concerning how the New Year will turn out.


  11. God's daughter Says:

    Since this series started I feel like there’s always this bright spotlight on me through out the service….

    Having grown up in the hands of an angry mother who vented all her anger on me emotionally and physically, left me with such a low self-esteem and a very messed up idea of how people perceive me and how to relate to them.

    I’m constantly emotionally drained in my persuit to keep up this perfect image which to me is the only way people will love and accept me….I beat myself to bits when I make a mistake and the thought of messing up can actually keep me awake at night.

    Most of my friends dont know this about me because I’ve excelled in keeping a perfect image and when I feel there’s a great chance I may find myself in a situation that I’m not an authority in, I go mute but if I can avoid it I literally hide in my house the only place I know as safe.

    Hence all those 4 lies are pointers of what my life is about….at times it feels like my life is this deep hole and everytime I try to get out, I dig even deeper. But I pray that by the end of this series God’s truth will finally set me free from this jail cell that is my life now.


  12. Mr. PerfectionHimself. Says:


    That was me right there.. my performance in school and home chores got me a pass to do anything i wanted to do out there in the world. Why lie, i was a good student (still is, actually), sharp and a shining example to the family and estate i grew up in. I was a member of all clubs in school, even 3K club, though i wasn’t doing Agric!.
    I even succeeded in getting a nice job, family and status after college. But behind all this facade is a crook. A CROOK. I could just slither away into my world and do anything i pleased – being bright and smooth, no one will know!
    Then once, i was unmasked by a keen teacher who told me the same thing as Pastor M. I thought the game was over since i left school and now am a grown man. Then Sunday Passie brought this out. So now the spotlight is back on, and i have no choice but to kill the double-life and just have one consistent character. I actually live in fear of being busted up till now by people who SHOULDN’T know the things i do, and have done. Sometimes me and my friends (who are crooks too), just sit there and imagine how badly it would show if we got busted.
    So, i’ll end here.
    This is my confession of the lie.
    I have done some crazy things
    I will sure do Mizizi and all the other classes, and serve God with all i got. I cofess the lie.
    I pray for forgiveness from the sins, and pray that the guilt will also fade away with time, and i will not be too late to receive my grace.
    I am in for this MAKEOVER, big time.
    I want to consolidate my character into one visible entity. No doubles.
    Thanks Pst M for the direct hit with the sledgehammer.


  13. Wat l loved most is the bible verses that u were said wheneva negative thoughts run our mind,i.e no condemination.2day l see myself as God sees me.thanks.


  14. thank you pastor M. that was a powerful sermon that lifted me soo much.
    may God bls Mavuno.


  15. Take me over Says:

    @ MrPerfectionHimself, i read your post and remembered something i once heard…that your misery is your ministry…that you minister to others best from the place of the experiences you have been through.

    For me, the pastors at Mavuno exemplify this…they preach/teach/terstify from things they have been through, they have dealt with in their lives.

    Let not guilt rob you…Let it go (it is forgiven) & Let Go…Use your life story to lead or point others to the cross. Pray the Father that He will guide you to who and where He needs you…to share with His people that life in the valley is not a place of permanence…you were in valley’x’ and are now out on the mountain. Tell the story of triumph/victory. Is He not the God of the mountain and the valley?

    Every time the past shows its ugly head…pray…ask people to pray with and for you…prayer works!

    Baraka tele!


  16. Take me over Says:


    I meant Let go and Let God!


  17. If your husband is a sex addict (pornography/masturbation/prostitutes/serial affairs etc), like mine, get in touch with me on Satan’s goal is to destroy your marriage, and he’ll pour on the attack with thoughts of doubt, insecurity and the fear of judgment from others to keep you isolated and cut off from help and encouragement. Together we can fight this battle and our marriages will be healed. God bless.


  18. dear pastor m,

    am grateful to God for the sermon on sunday n like many guys i have believed the deceiver and accepted all his lies but now am in trouble n i dint knw anywhere else to post this i hope you will guide me. i am 26yrs old n ihave been sexually active since 19yrs old. i want to stop but i dont know how, i keep going to God for help and at times i cn go for months without sex but then i start all over again. i am not married n i know its wrong but what do i do? i need help am tired of this. please help me pastor murithi please.i need deliverance.


  19. After so much hype on purpose earlier in my life and a quest for purpose that didnt materialise, I resigned to living a day at a time. Working hard……..enough to pay the bills and afford myself a few luxuries. Therefore each day i wake up, i put in a good day of work and go home. I try not to think too hard about whether I am doing what I am supposed to do. Infact to be honest I dont want to question what I do too much. After all I live the good life, right?

    Litsening to pastor M on sunday made me really wonder whether I am living to my full potetial. What if I am crusing at 70kph whereas I can do 250kph. It got me feeling very uncomforatable about the status quo. I have always heard people say that they found their purpose when they did mizizi. I am willing to give it a shot just to make a date with God and destiny. I want to see myself as God sees me and do what he created me to do. I am a mighty warrior of God.


  20. Human Being Says:

    Pastor M.
    I attend Mavuno ‘religiously’ because of sermons like these – sermon’s that are relevant and that prove that you like I are struggling and you are finding solutions to those struggles through your relationship with the Most High… Pastor, you and your team are truly a beacon of hope set on a hill for all to see.

    Keep it up … I am already looking forward to next Sunday!!


  21. Beloved, Anointed and Blessed Says:

    Heh my mirror is full of sticky notes! 🙂 the lies lies lies and more lies that i have replayed in my head wololo! Clearly my ‘illness’ has been diagnosed may the healing begin! I receive it in Jesus name!!


  22. for real? Says:

    It sure felt like the sermon on sunday was written with me in mind…i know God used it to reach me and so many others at our point of need. Isn’t it awesome…God is always on time!

    I was at the point of deep deep despair. I came to church because i needed to get our of the house and be around people…plus i had promised myself that i would take the makeover as it is designed and the design did not involve sleeping in ;o)!

    Session #2 was profound….building up on the first session of the makeover – i finally found words for the monkey on my back. One of the things i saw right away is that i have held on to all the lies on a level and really run by the need to perform to impossible and perfect standards and seeking approval (from any and all manner out there) to say/feel i am okay. But guess what… no prizes for guessing that there’s no joy there either…no sense of accomplishment…nope, none of the goodies come with that package ;o(

    So getting to nail the source of my disempowerment…Wow! That day, a load got lifted/dropped…its been like I’ve been fighting something i could not see. That sermon breathed life back. My worry would be falling back into the traps. Will lean on the verses given plus find someone to walk with and pray with.

    Music is ministry and has always brought healing to me. Praise and worship set me back on track. Later that day i caught a video that i now could hear so differently. It was for the song “Imagine me”. I love the song but had never sang it without breaking down because what the song’s about was so not available to me. I could not own that God loves me …. period! Talking about the walking wounded. Despite that, the absolutely super news, is that the foundation is in process and the healing has began…Holding onto His view. Can hardly wait for the next phase of this construction.

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    I thought to share the song that spoke so differently for/to me.
    Here goes….

    Imagine Me…written by KIRK FRANKLIN
    (This version was sang to usher in ’07)
    The video is on

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    {Thank you! For allowing me to see myself as you see me…Thank you!}

    Imagine me
    Loving what I see when the mirror looks at me ’cause I…
    I imagine me
    In a place of no insecurities
    And I’m finally happy ’cause
    I imagine me

    Letting go of all of the ones who hurt me
    ‘Cause they never did deserve me
    Can you imagine me?
    Saying no to thoughts that try to control me
    Remembering all you told me
    Lord, can you imagine me?
    Over what my mama said
    And healed/freed from what my daddy did
    And I wanna live and not read that page again

    [Chorus] {Sing it with me!}
    Imagine me, being free, trusting you totally, finally I can
    Imagine me
    I admit it was hard to see
    You being in love with someone like me
    But finally I can
    Imagine me

    Imagine me
    Being strong
    And not letting people break me down
    You won’t get that joy this time around
    Can you imagine me

    {Can i get a witness!]}
    In a world (in a world) where nobody has to live afraid?
    Because of your love, fear’s gone away
    Can you imagine me?

    Letting go of my past
    And glad I have another chance
    And my heart will dance (I wanna dance)
    ‘Cause I don’t have to read that page again

    [Chorus x 2]

    This song is dedicated to people like me
    To those that struggle with insecurities, acceptance and even self esteem
    You never felt good enough
    You never felt pretty enough
    But imagine God whispering in your ear
    Letting you know that everything that ever happened is….

    Gone, gone, it’s gone, all gone

    Every sin
    Every mistake
    every failure all gone
    Depression gone
    Low self esteem is gone
    Hating yourself is gone
    Feeling like a failure is gone

    Forgetting those things which are behind me
    I press on
    I’m a new creature
    Is washed away
    Look at me now
    It’s gone
    What your Mama did, what your Sister did, what your Brother did, what your Uncle did, what your neighbour did, what the devil did

    Na na na na na
    Na na na na na na na

    Or say good bye to all of it…

    Bye Bye Bye Bye Bye
    Bye Bye Bye Bye Bye Bye Bye


  23. Thank u Pastor M. for reminding me that my value has not diminished because of what I’ve been through.


  24. Pastor M…. where does it end? how does it work? that we stop looking for love in all the wrong places and everytime we end up getting hurt? am in this very situation, i believe in God and saved too great job in a christian organization, but i have broken all the rules in the book…..even got a T-shirt for it. thank you for the wake up call….. but i believe there s more to this…..DELIVERANCE!
    every situation and relationship in the last month that is not God represented is painfully being taken away… hurts but the prayer i made after our first make over service.
    thanks Past M for standing with us, and telling us as it is, kindly continue to pray with us and for us, that we made be made over and not as the Kiambu flats that keep on falling down but have a firm foundation in our first and only Love.



  25. Hi, pastor M? Hey ur such a blessing! may God’s favour b with u forever! I’ve got a prayer request, i would wish to know what ministry does God want me to serve Him in! thats my prayer this yr! It’s also my wish to not only hear His word, but live it too. pliz pray 4 me. Thanks


  26. Hey, i loved the xtreme makeover series, let it go was most applicable to me, i had ‘thin skin’ people’s words n actions used to affect me a lot, bt hopefully not anymore. I live in donholm estate, please could anyone let me know of a life group close by, email me. Thanx.


  27. Hey everyone, i loved the xtreme makeover series, let it go was most applicable to me, i had ‘thin skin’ people’s words n actions used to affect me a lot, bt hopefully not anymore. I live in donholm estate, please could anyone let me know of a life group close by, email me. Thanx.


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